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Counselling

My Approach

I am a humanistic counsellor, this means that I believe in your capacity for innate knowing and personal growth. Sadly we can lose our connection to ourselves and consequently our ability to trust in our own capacity. Counselling can help to restore this connection. My approach is integrative, meaning that I draw from several humanistic approaches but the heart of my approach is person-centred and compassion focused. I offer a warm and non-judgmental space where together we can explore any difficulties or challenges you may be facing and you can express your thoughts and emotions in a safe environment, at your pace. I am here to listen without judgment or expectation, to help you find your own way forward.

Trauma Therapy

1 in 7 of us experience a significant traumatic event before the age of 18. As we know, abuse is markedly under reported (as 1 in 5) and so it is most likely to be higher than national statistics record. Survivors of abuse are also more likely to have experienced more than 1 significant traumatic event, they may have experienced multiple or prolonged periods of abuse. 25% of those affected by trauma will experience longer lasting symptoms such as post traumatic stress. According to current research, we don't yet know why 25% of trauma survivors continue to be affected and 75% experience a reduction of symptoms after the first 3 months of the event. It may be due to lack of support received at the time of the event or a combination of contributing factors. What we do know, is that it is not your fault. It is not because of something you did or didn't do. You survived

If you are experiencing unpleasant symptoms like anxiety, panic, flashbacks, disturbed sleep... I will help you to develop resources and learn techniques that will support you in reducing these symptoms and improve your quality of life. Sadly, as a consequence of trauma we can develop very negative views about ourselves that we are 'unworthy of love, compassion and nurturing'. These beliefs are false, you are worthy and I will help you challenge any false negative beliefs and messages imposed on you by another. I will also help you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself using a compassion focused therapeutic approach.

I trained in Somatic Trauma Therapy with Babette Rothschild, a leading specialist in this field, and use this approach in my work. I also use trauma education to help explain the impact of trauma, not only is it interesting but it also makes a lot of sense and helps you take back the reins and reclaim your life. Trauma informed counselling reduces the impact and symptoms of trauma using very simple techniques that empower survivors in their recovery, leading to a deep sense of healing and personal growth (also known as 'Post Traumatic Growth').

Compassion Focused 

I use a Compassion-Focused approach in counselling and also in my own life. So often we don't offer ourselves the same compassion and understanding that we naturally offer others, friends and even strangers. Developing a compassionate mind might mean: learning to rest when you're tired, discovering your own pace, learning self-care... giving yourself permission to have a night off, treating yourself, having a nice bath. But it also means treating yourself fairly and with respect, putting yourself higher up on your list of priorities, putting healthy boundaries in place like how you expect others to treat you. It also means giving yourself realistic expections and being understanding of yourself... your strengths as well as limitations. You are human. We're all doing the best that we can with what we have right now. Coming to terms with being human can be challenging but in accepting ourselves, as we are, and with compassion, a deeper sense of self-worth will emerge.

Presenting Issues

  • Anxiety

  • Abuse (Emotional, Physical and Sexual, Neglect)

  • Addiction(s)

  • Adolescence 

  • Anger management  

  • Attachment disorder 

  • Bereavement 

  • Bullying  

  • Child related issues 

  • Chronic fatigue syndrome & Fybromyalgia

  • Depression

  • Domestic violence 

  • Dissociation 

  • Eating disorders

  • Gender dysphoria & Gender Identity 

  • Loneliness 

  • Loss & Grief

  • Low self-confidence 

  • Low self-esteem

  • Low self-worth 

  • Miscarriage  

  • Postnatal depression

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)  

  • Relationship issues

  • Family issues

  • Separation and divorce

  • Self-harm 

  • Sexuality  

  • Stress 

  • Suicidal thoughts 

  • Trauma 

  • Work-related stress & burnout

  • Vicarious Trauma

  • Young carers

Children and Young People

I have been working with children and young people for more than 20 years, with a wide range of ages and needs and in a variety of settings. In counselling, I work with children and young people aged 11 and above.

Please see the additional page dedicated to counselling children and young people for more detailed information.

Mindfulness & Sensory Integration 

Nowadays, it is common to be living such fast paced lives it really gives new meaning to the term 'multi-tasking'. Within our society we have developed expectations of constant 

accessibility, always available by mobile phone, group chat, social media, email etc... and consequently we forget to take time out, rest and recharge. In some ways I think we compare ourselves to computers and forget that we can't just plug ourselves in to a power supply and instantly recharge. Our human systems don't work like that. This new norm isn't sustainable without it impacting our mental and physical health in the long term and can lead to high levels of stress and anxiety. Mindfulness is about focusing our attention and awareness onto the here & now rather than the million and one things we 'should be doing'. Using our senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste, smell) we can bring our minds back into focus with our physical environment, it's amazing how much you can notice about what is present when you pay attention to it. Learning Mindful techniques and exercises can bring calmness and balance back into your life.